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PRAYER OF THANKSGIVING, FORGIVENESS AND LOVE, Black Saturday at Taguig City Jail By LC Fernandez and Ria Campos

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Photos by: Victor Roman and Rocky Chan

As part of the recent Lenten celebration on Black Saturday, a group of more than 30 volunteers of the Single Young Adults (SYA) joined together to answer the call to share God’s love to a hundred selected residents of the Taguig City Jail (TCJ).

LC: It was my first time to go to the jail and spend time with the residents inside. I was actually excited because it was one of the first few SYA activities that I attended after joining the recent 29th SYA Weekend Retreat. I decided to join the activity because I was moved by the note in the SYA invitation to “spend some time with the least, the last, and the lost.”I thought I would get nervous around the inmates residents but I actually felt safe as I know my faith family is there with me and that we were there to share a moment, listen, talk to them, and most importantly, to commemorate Jesus’ suffering and death until his resurrection on Easter Sunday.

RIA: This was my second time in TCJ but have been attending prison ministry events for the last three years. I always come in a little nervous, because I don’t know what to say and am very challenged in Tagalog. We were tasked to talk about the Stations of the Cross and how the different stations were relevant to the residents and then to finally reflect and write a prayer on the station assigned to us.
It’s always a bit stressful and nerve wracking – what will I say? I may say the wrong thing? What if they ask me something about our faith that I cannot answer? However, when we broke into share groups and started explaining the stations, I felt like the Holy Spirit had given me the right words to say for each station and sufficient taglish to be able to communicate.


Two SYA volunteers were assigned to each group of TCJ residents in order to facilitate the discussions and sharing of reflections on each of the 14 stations of the Cross assigned to them, after which a prayer will be prepared. We started asking them how they spend their Holy Week when they were still outside of prison. They were hesitant at first but eventually some of them shared how they did the Way of the Cross. Most of them joined the “Alay Lakad” walked all the way from various places until they reached their destination in Antipolo. Another one was active in the Passion play, and one of them reminisced how she enjoyed cooking suman for her children and spent the quiet time with her family. With their stories, one would think how normal their lives were at that time, it seemed they had no worries, nor problems, and for a brief moment, I forgot we were actually inside an institution where their activities were very limited.

The reflections they shared about the stations were very moving. When the residents started sharing their reactions and their stories, you could see that their reflections were truly coming from the heart and not just words that they were saying that we might like to hear. They expressed how they related themselves to Christ’s sufferings: how they felt humiliated and gave humiliation to their families for the grave mistakes they did, how they tried to stand up and change only to fall back to their previous faults, how they see their families too share the cross they carry by taking care of their children instead of them doing that responsibility, how some of them felt alone, neglected, and forgotten. It was evident how they felt remorse for the reasons they were in jail. Yet when we shared on the station assigned to our group, the 12th station, when Jesus died on the cross, we all felt humbled of God’s love for giving up His life for our salvation from sins; that there is always hope and a new day to live a new life with Him.
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It was almost noon, and amidst the scorching heat, all of us did the Way of the Cross and recited the prayers made by the residents. We truly felt the presence of the Holy Spirit in the share groups as their reflections became evident in the prayers they made. Somehow, Ria and I felt proud that our share group was able to come up with a heartfelt and truly reflective prayer for our 12th station:
Lord, unang-una po, nagpapasalamat kami sa lahat ng biyaya at gabay na binibigay ninyo sa amin. Humihingi po kami ng tawad sa lahat ng kasalanan na aming ginawa na siyang dumagdag sa bigat ng krus na inyong dinadala. Panginoon namin, narito kami sa inyong harapan, humihingi ng katatagan upang malampasan ang lahat ng pagsubok na dumarating at darating pa sa aming buhay. Gabayan po kami ng iyong Banal na Espiritu. Hindi rin po kami nawawalan ng pag-asa upang magbagong buhay. Alam po naming hindi ninyo kami pababayaan at may mga tao kayong ginagamit bilang instrumento upang mabuksan an gaming isipan tungo sa pagbabago. Panginoon, hinihingi po namin ang kalayaan ng bawat isa sa lugar na ito. Amen.
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RIA: I think the residents felt that although they have committed grave mistakes, they are not abandoned by God. They may not have their families visit them but there are strangers who took the time to sit with them and listen to them. I feel like this was God’s way of reminding them that He loves them and wants them to change for the better. Although we may have more to share with them in terms of money and goods, they have a lot of things to share by their experiences and their words. We never have too little in which we cannot help others. Our small actions, like donating a bar of soap or spending a morning with people who need our time can go a long way.

The activity did not end there. Jerome Capili, a Prison Minsitry volunteer and catechist, who also celebrated his birthday at that time, shared his blessings by taking charge of the residents’ lunch. The SYA volunteers also shared the simple gifts of toiletry items to the residents. I will never forget how thankful the residents were after the activity.
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LC: Their tears during the sharing became smiles and their eyes were full of hope. Hope for freedom to do the simple things such as being able to share moments with their families, to live a new life outside with God’s guidance, and all the unspoken wishes, are what we pray for them. Hugs and well-wishes were exchanged, but most of all, the experience to remind the residents that they are never forgotten and that they are loved will stay in our hearts.
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Dearest Parishioners,
We would like to appeal for your help and support in building a “GREEN – MULTI- FAITH CHAPEL” inside the compound of Taguig City Jail. This structure will be of great help to the residents. They can have their weekly masses and other activities there. For pledges and donations in cash or in kind will be much appreciated. Please get in touch with me or with our Social Worker Ms. Nimfa Dumago at the parish office. Thank you very much.
Love and Prayers,
Alli Raval
Prison Ministry Head

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Ground Breaking of Multi-Purpose Chapel in Taguig City Jail By Jayme Blanco

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Last April 7, the Santuario De San Antonio Single Young Adults (SYA) visited the Taguig City Jail (TCJ) for the Ground Breaking of the TCJ Multi-Faith Chapel. The chapel will be designed and built by the SYA community through donations. Jolly Gomez gave a speech referring to Psalm 118, “The stone the builders rejected has become the cornerstone.” Jolly further said that, “The cornerstone is what is used to build a firm foundation. The psalm refers to Jesus but I also referred to the inmates. They are rejected by society but our prayer is that through our chapel they can come out as Christ-centered people who will be the cornerstones of their family and community.’

Present were SYA Prison Ministry head Alli Raval, Arch. Pabs Suarez (SYA), Atty. Jolly Gomez, SSAP-PPC President Jayme Blanco, PNP Regional Director J/CSUPT Emmanuel Sicio, DSC, J/SUPT Clement Laboy and J/SINSP Jundelina Jagunap.

The chapel will be designed by Arch. Pabs Suarez. The architecture will have an open design to accommodate more seating space. Further, it can be used for different activities for the spiritual growth of the TCJ inmates. There are right now 800 inmates in TCJ. Everyone is welcome to join the Prison Ministry activities in TCJ which also includes cathecism, cooking contest, gift giving, etc. For inquiries and donations, please visit our parish office and look for Ms. Nimfa Dumago, SSAP Social Worker or call 843-8832.

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29th SYA Weekend Retreat (March 13-15, 2015) By Mara Boquiren

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People find themselves attending our retreat for different reasons. Many come to deepen or restore their relationship with God. Others are there to find respite, gain clarity, or join a faith family. Some were compelled by a friend or relative to be there.

Whatever their reason for joining, they finish the retreat consistently receiving far more than they hoped for.

Such was the case at the recent 29th SYA Weekend. 24 young adults from around Metro Manila emerged from the retreat refreshed, renewed, and riding on a spiritual high. They were led by this Weekend’s Team A, who served as facilitators and speakers: Javier Gomez, Karina Escano, Pisha Banaag, Stephen Ang, Ellen Tabios and Hani Roa. Team A gave some of the most powerful talks I’ve heard in my life. They were very brave to have shared what they did – all for the benefit of our community. SYAers and retreat participants alike were deeply moved by them.

Here’s what some participants had to say about their retreat:
I met so many wonderful people this weekend that my heart is full of joy and love and I just want to say thank you God for bringing them into my life! You guys are awesome! – Sabina Santiago

My biggest takeaway from the 29th Weekend was that I realized that I’m now in a space of being happy and grateful for what’s happening in my life now. How the topics were arranged was perfect plus the openness and vulnerability of the speakers made us share more about ourselves with complete strangers. These strangers are now good friends and I can consider them as family. I am beyond grateful for the SYA Weekend experience and for the gift of friendship and family! – Argel Tiburcio

An opportunity to reflect on scriptural passages and witness how it affects the lives of others through their sharing. The sharing of fellow participants inspired me by their strengths and reminded me of humility and understanding by their weaknesses knowing that each of us have our own crosses to bear. – Joel Tirona

The Weekend started as decision to keep a promise made to my best friend but by the time Sunday rolled around, it was so much more than that. It was one of only two transformative processes I’ve ever gone through in my life and I am so grateful that I took the leap of faith that was needed of me. Taking a leap of faith requires courage and will, trust and openness; and the people I spent my Weekend with made it easier. They also made it infinitely worthwhile. –Madi Belen

Operations were run by Team B heads Alla Raval and Brian Medina. Workshoppers were our SYA Council: Vic Rufino, Shelli Tomacruz, Marly Laraya, Caran Zuluaga, LM Zuluaga, Mike Yuson, Oskie Dolendo, Pabs Suarez, Simon Villalon, Tricia Monsod, and Voltaire Tayag. Food was provided by Melo’s catering, care of Caron and Paul Macasaet as well as the generous donations of SYA members.

What is the Weekend Retreat?
The retreat itself is beautiful.

It starts out on a Friday night with a group of strangers (ages 21-39) of different backgrounds. Most of them with no idea of what’s to come. They are eased into the rhythm of the retreat by 6 SYA leaders, whom we refer to as Team A. The participants are then led through a sequence of talks, prayers and sharing sessions that unravel their minds, hearts and spirits.

Over the next 2 days, they come to terms with who they are and all that separate them from God.

It may be hard to imagine how a retreat that lasts only a little over 2 days can have such a profound impact on a person’s life. But this truly does happen to our participants – whether or not they’ve detected it. As you can see from their responses above, they finish with a mixed bag of emotions and realizations. Filled to the brim with joy, hope, and love.For most, the effect is immediate. For others, it takes just a bit longer. This only underscores the potency of the experience.

What is a faith family?
A faith family is exactly that. A family with whom we share our faith, values, time, and love for God. Our bond as a family is forged through serving our community and ministering tothe sick, needy, and imprisoned.

Why would you want to be a part of one?
You would want to have a faith family simply because it will make you a better and happier person. This happens because of two things: 1) Spiritual Growth and 2) Community

At SYA, we attend mass and worship God together. We visit and tend to sick children at the Philippine General Hospital as well as dejected prisoners at Taguig City Jail. We also teach young children and JPIC college scholars Catechism. At any given time, we answer calls to serve and share our blessings.

Because of the strong bond we develop over time, it is common for us to find friends, mentors, significant others, or spouses within our faith family. Our faith is the foundation for our lifelong relationships with one other.

Personally, I consider SYA as an extension of my own family. We value the same things. They know me well and accept me for who I am. I can turn to them for almost anything – fantastic conversation, sensible advice, or just some company whenever I want it. They are some of the best people I know. That’s why I continue to do what I do.I fell in love with the community. And I’ve been in SYA for only a year.

Strong faith families like ours are invaluable to a healthy conscience and our general well-being. And I am certain that they make the world a better place.

With that in mind, the retreat was also designed to be a microcosm of what we do in SYA as active members – mass, prayer meetings, and Eucharistic adoration (save for our work with different ministries). It is the participants’ first taste of what life as an SYAer is like. From the moment they enter the retreat and for as long as they are active, they are enveloped in our culture of warmth, openness, love, courage and acceptance.

If any of the above resonated with you, then perhaps it is time you consider doing something for God and yourself. Taking the Weekend is a terrific way to start.

How do you join an SYA Weekend?
Anyone ages 21-39 can sign up for an SYA Weekend retreat. We are on our 15th year and our next retreat will be on September 18 to 20, 2015. To reserve a slot for yourself or a friend/loved one, please contact me, Mara Boquiren (Smart 09985467175), or Ramon Blanco (Globe 09175201025). Registration fee is at PhP1,500.00; inclusive of all meals, snacks and materials.Come with an open mind and heart.

And see you at the 30th SYA Weekend!!

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“JOURNEYING IN FAITH THROUGH SYA” By Johan Ferrer

syaI found out about the SYA Weekend reading its simple and straightforward announcement on the parish bulletin board 11 years ago. Back then, my relationship with God was through daily prayer & meditation, and attending Mass. I believe I was quite happy then, with my friends and my job. However, I couldn’t say I was happy with my relationship with God. I was wondering if I could attend not just Mass but also Church activities with people I could relate with. So I wanted to attend SYA. Unfortunately, I couldn’t because of scheduling conflicts. It took me 4 more years before I attended. I went to the retreat by myself, looking to reflect on how I could possibly get a better sense of direction in my life as a Catholic.

I’m an introvert, so it took me some time to warm up to strangers. But I felt very welcome and unjudged. I enjoyed the weekend and had many realizations, especially on how I could become a better Catholic. I attended the activities immediately after and still felt very welcome; it was as if I joined one big family.

Seven years have passed, and I still attend the SYA activities. I have become more vocal about my faith, wanting to attend Mass more and pray more. Attending and helping with activities of our Church ministries such as Luke 18, prison and hospital ministries, among others, have made me realize the power of service as a prayer. I have met people here who are good role models, in the way they live their life and with their faith. They are not just friends, they are like family to me. SYA is my faith family, and I have found my joy with them.

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29TH SINGLE YOUNG ADULTS (SYA) WEEKEND – “My SYA Faith Journey” By Earl Leonard Sebastian

I come from what society would describe as a close-knit, traditional and conservative Filipino-Chinese family. As practicing Catholics, my family regularly attended Mass, simbang-gabi and performed other Catholic obligations. I was also an altar server in our parish and I often prayed novenas. Yet, while most of my batchmates, relatives and friends had earned respected titles within their companies, I felt lost despite having my own Masters degree, an accreditation as a Certified Professional Marketer, a radio show host, writer and voice artist.I have already accomplished a lot and yet I still felt unfulfilled.I was at a point in my life where I was at a crossroads, juggling different things and trying to find my role in life. I was having a quarter-life crisis where I felt that things were not going the way I expected them to – financially, with my career and relationships. It was all piling up.

Things all changed when one day some friends invited me to join a retreat for single and young professionals in San Antonio. My first reaction was that the participants were probably all from rich and powerful families, how they would accept me? I was the type of person who was often found in the corner of the room afraid of conversing with everyone. How would I fit in? But I decided to take the chance and join anyway. Having just come from work, I was warmly welcomed by the alumni of the community and also met my new batchmates. They were friendly and kind. All throughout the weekend, after listening to the talks and interacting with my batchmates, it gave me this one of a kind feeling which was really so hard to understand. I finally understood what my journey was all about. Everyone had his or her journey in life, a cross to carry. Everyone accepted each other, no judgments, no prejudice.

After the retreat, I realized that I was able to find my Faith Family, my prayer warriors. They accepted me wholeheartedly and I know that they will always be there during my moments of happiness and grief. The biggest calling in my faith journey was when I was given a chance to serve my faith community as a team member and facilitator for the 26thSYA Weekend. Just like how the team inspired me and changed my perspectives when I joined, I am happy that I was able to meet thirty strangers and somehow become a part of their lives and inspire them by sharing my own faith journey.

The 29th Single Young Adults Weekend will be from March 13-15, 2015 (Friday evening to Sunday) at the 2nd floor of the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Center. Registration Fee is P1,500. Informational brochures and sign-up sheets are available at the Parish Office. You may also contact Jonathan at 09178367374 or jona.dcruz@gmail.com or Helene at 09178038808 or heleneuy@gmail.com for more information.

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The Weekend That Changed My Life By Adrienne Mendoza

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I entered Antioch with no expectations whatsoever except for the fact that I was scared to death at the thought they were going to beat or haze us (in my defense I’ve heard things about Days with The Lord so, yeah). For the very first time, when people talked about God and their strong beliefs towards their religion I decided to listen with an open mind and an open heart. As I was telling the friends I’ve made in Antioch, the experience for me in a single word would be: AMAZING.

I have never experienced anything as real as I did in that weekend. Going into Antioch, I was confused and I had a lot of doubts with things I’ve been dealing with in my life recently. Things at home and at school were on a downward spiral for me which wasn’t something I was really used to growing up. As I told those who attended the mass, it was when my roommate and my sister listened to me and both of them told me to pray to God for guidance and strength. It frustrated me because I didn’t understand what that meant because I never really felt a “connection” with God growing up and I never really prayed unless I needed or wanted something. The next day, my friend, Kat Aldaba asked if I wanted to sign up for Antioch. I immediately said no because spiritual retreats weren’t something I was into. But then I remembered my roommate and my sister telling me about praying to God and decided to give the whole Antioch thing a shot. What did I have to lose anyway, right? I was lucky enough that the head that Kat talked to allowed me to enter just a few hours before closing the slots – I got the last slot, woohoo! Lucky me!

There are a lot of wonderful things that happened during the weekend but I’ll only talk about three since I’d need a whole book to write everything. The biggest dilemma I had going into Antioch was whether or not Theater was the right course for me. Medicine has always been something I loved and also grew to hate. I was raised in a family of doctors who all studied in UST so you can put together the struggle when I say the course I took was Theater Arts in Ateneo de Manila University. I’ve always been very passionate about Medicine but the pressures my dad gave me became too much for me to handle so I decided to choose the course I wouldn’t feel suffocated in. Bad move though because I didn’t feel 100% happy. So going back to Antioch, the first talk was given by Radito Banzon, who may I add could have talked about a million other things but no – he talked about his future: Medicine. At first I was thinking it was a sign. Then I thought “No. That’s creepy. You’re over thinking.”

The second incident was the night of recon. In one of the stations I stayed at was the one involving forgiveness. The notebook with bible passages said Jesus forgave those who betrayed him and died for their sins. Now, I’ve lost friends through time because of different reasons and one being due to trust issues. One particular friend of mine, who was very close to my heart, broke our friendship because she went behind my back and did things with the guy I was dating at the time. It may seem like such a silly predicament and such a “babaw” problem but for me, betrayal is betrayal. It hurt me more than I expected, I felt like I had been slapped and laughed at by my then best friend. I didn’t understand why people did bad things to hurt me when I for one am someone who loves and loves with my whole heart. I hadn’t spoken to her for months since and there was always a sadness whenever I saw her or heard her name. So during my recon, I asked God to tell me what to do. I kept asking for a sign because I didn’t know whether or not I should forgive her for doing something so hurtful or to just remove her from my life completely. I finished confession and the entire process, still no sign.

When I went home with my sleep group, I felt exhausted and began to come to the conclusion that sometimes God doesn’t answer everything and it’s okay because he has more important things to deal with. So as I’m about to pass out, Issa Barte tells us candidates she has something to tell us. It seemed pretty serious so I was afraid but at the same time it annoyed me because I really wanted to sleep. She told us she had to give us something and we checked under our pillows and I found an envelop with my name on it. I didn’t understand what it was and as I opened it, I pulled out one of the many different colored pieces of papers and there I read my very first palanca. I literally started crying because I was in complete shock (also because I didn’t know what a palanca was). It was from HER, the friend. I also didn’t expect to receive anything from her since she was in Europe for JTA. The very first thing she said in her letter was: “I’m sorry. I know what I did was unforgivable and even if you decide to forgive me I know it is impossible to ever forget.” Now you may think it’s purely coincidence and it may be, but that is some crazy luck. And the thing is, it didn’t feel like coincidence. It really did feel like an answer.

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28TH SINGLE YOUNG ADULTS WEEKEND – MY RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD By Caron Macasaet

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I was brought up a in a very religious, Catholic family. We lived in the U.S. when I was young, and I served my church youth group in South San Francisco for about 4 years. I had a good relationship with God, although my prayers were mostly about asking Him for things I wanted and needed. God in His goodness would provide me these things, yet I felt something was missing in my life that I could not explain.

When we returned to the Philippines I continued to attend daily Mass and visit the Blessed Sacrament regularly. God continued to answer my prayers. Still, it did not seem like this was enough. Then one day, God suddenly stopped giving me what I asked for. Huh? But why, I thought. I pray and go to Mass. What is happening, God? It was during this time of uncertainty when I met my mama’s friend who told me, instead of asking God for things that I want, I should ask God for things He wants me to do for Him. So I attended the Single Young Adults (SYA) Weekend and there I found many ways I could serve God.

In SYA, I learned to serve God through our visits to Makati City Jail (MCJ). I didn’t really want to go to MCJ at first; I mean who wants to go to jail? I really did not understand why we had to visit a jail, but I still went. We arranged a recollection for the inmates on Black Saturday, and it was there that I saw God in each of the prisoners in my group. God made me sit with a group of five women who were all in jail for drugs. I remembered my relative, an addict whom I had pretty much given up on. One of the inmates shared about how her mother fell from a high staircase and while falling she prayed to God to just take care of her grandchildren because she knew she wouldn’t survive the fall. Her mother survived unscathed. It was her prayer that saved her. After hearing that I didn’t give up on praying for my relative’s healing.

I used to feel depressed about small things. Sometimes I feel I don’t have money or maybe I don’t earn as much as other people. Spending time with the inmates has made me realize many things about my life. I am so blessed! God loves me so much & I have so many blessings! I have a roof over my head, food on the table and so many other things I take for granted. The inmates go through problems just as we do, but they really have nothing. No house, no food. The inmates are human beings like you and me. It is because of extreme poverty that they end up doing the things they do. I am more compassionate about their situation. They make mistakes and they also need forgiveness & love.

Matthew 25:35-36: 35 For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, 36 I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ I’ve heard this passage through out my life but it seems this phrase always escapes me. “I was in prison and you came to me.”

Now I know why we go to prison. To share God’s love to every prisoner we encounter.

A few weeks ago we had an MCJ activity. We celebrated Mass with the prisoners and watched a Filipino Indie Film with them. As we were giving out popcorn and juice a lady prisoner called me by my name and was very excited to see me. “Ma’am Caron bumalik ka ulit. Magturo ka ulit,” she said. This encounter made me realize that I could bring so much joy just by being there. Our mere presence in MCJ makes a difference. Sometimes we think we need to do amazing things, but all I did was eat popcorn and watch the movie from behind. Just being there brought smiles to this woman who called me by name but whose name I could not even remember.

Now I serve God through the many outreach activities of SYA and still keep my daily schedule of attending Mass and holy hour. In the past I would feel so bad if I failed to keep my schedule. Through SYA I’ve learned to offer my work as prayer; so if I can’t do all my prayers because of the work I need to do for God, I just say a little prayer while doing God’s work as my prayer and offering to Him.

In SYA, I found a family or a “faith family” as they call it. I have found sisters & brothers in Christ who have helped me become a better person & a better Christian serving God. It may seem like we have known each other all our lives, but I’ve only been in the community for 2 years. I have learned to look beyond my needs & priorities in life and put somebody else’s needs in front of my own. And as our faith lead, Jolly Gomez, always says, “”Do not worry God will always provide,” and God always does.

The 28th Single Young Adults weekend will be from September 12 – 14, 2014 (Friday evening to Sunday) at the 2nd floor of the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Center. Registration Fee is P1,000. Informational brochures are available at the Parish Office. You may also contact Jonathan at 09178367374 or jona.dcruz@gmail.com for more information.

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REFLECTIONS ON FINDING GOD by Mara Boquerin

8 I grew up without a religion because my parents decided that they wanted me to choose one for myself when I was an adult. This had to do with my parents being raised as Catholics then ending up agnostic. So in the absence of religion, they taught me universal human values and principles such as justice, truth, love, gratitude, and so on. This method had its own pros and cons.

On one hand, I was free to figure things out for myself and was not committed to any particular spiritual way of living. On the other hand, I missed out on growing up with a faith community and spent a lot of time pursuing questions that did not always have logical answers. My fairly liberal upbringing was also reinforced by being in a high school, college and a sorority that had no religious affiliations whatsoever. All of which encouraged me to question everything and keep a very open mind.

I always believed in God. I simply could not imagine the universe not having a source. So I would pray to Him from time to time – to thank Him or to ask for some help. For the first 18 years of my life, this was enough. Truth, logic and rationality were my solace. However, there came a time when I started asking questions about how I would fulfill my lofty dreams, make everyone I love happy, get over my anger, insecurities, inertia, and so on.

I found myself overwhelmed and clueless about what to do. I tried different things and talked to different people but nothing really helped me – because what was crippling me more than anything else was fear. Fear that I would fail, fear that I would get hurt, fear that I might have to admit that I’m not as good as I thought I was. For the first time, my usual formula for solving problems was of no help. The more I tried to pacify my fears, the more frustrated, anxious, and self-absorbed I became.

I tried psyching myself, escaping my problems by becoming hedonistic, as well as trying some very foolish things – anything to get some semblance of peace again. None of it worked. Neurotic that I was, I kept thinking this was happening because there was something I was missing like a technique or an epiphany.

It was only after a good friend of mine told me to pray every day before sleeping and upon waking that I started to feel whole again. She told me praying would help me let go. Let go of things I had no control over anyway, and as a consequence the things that I wanted would eventually come in ways that would surprise me. While praying more often made little sense to me at that time, I decided to take her advice anyway. I prayed Our Father twice a day and that was it. After a few weeks, I noticed I was calmer, I could sleep better, and I was fulfilling the promises I made to myself because I was accountable to God.

Eventually, all feelings of fear and insecurity were obliterated and replaced by courage and compassion. Since then, I accomplished more, took more risks, became much more comfortable with uncertainty and vulnerability, and made many other people happy.

It soon became apparent to me that my own will and desires were not compelling enough reasons to weather challenges. I found no peace or meaning or joy within the solitude of my own head. I only found these when I appreciated all that I had and spent most of my time in the service of others. In other words, I learned to have faith and I learned to truly love. I learned that love was not just a feeling – it was work and it meant giving. I learned that selfishness was the antithesis of love as well as the cause of much suffering in the world.

This was a significant paradigm shift for me. I got over being a grumpy, inflexible, overly cerebral and highly critical control-freak by fully welcoming God into my life. It is His presence that has enabled me to grow into a more mature, loving, and peaceful person. In my gratitude, I do my best to bring the same sense of peace to as many other people as possible. It was around this time that I decided to become Catholic and join the SYA (Single Young Adults) community. Since then, I’ve been surrounded by even more like-minded and like-hearted individuals. This only deepened my conviction that finding God is indeed one of life’s most rewarding pursuits – intellectual, emotional, spiritual or otherwise.

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“Finding Joy in SYA — My Extended Family, My Second Home” by Marie Tycangco

At some point in our lives we ask ourselves ‘What is it to be truly happy?’. We explore all the possibilities to find things that will give us the joy we have been longing for, but after so many tries, we still can’t seem to find the answer — not in a person, not in our work, not in the hobbies that we enjoy. So, where?

Is happiness the absence of problems?  Is it having a perfect family, having lots of friends, having a huge paycheck, being able to travel the world? Is it even possible to be problem free?

I think being happy is a decision. It is appreciating what life has to offer, seeing the beauty in everything that we do and in everybody that we encounter. It is in knowing that God is with us in every endeavor we face that we find happiness. It is inevitable that we have disagreements within our parents or have conflicts with our brothers or sisters or go through failed relationships or have problems at work. These things should not stop us from being happy.

Back in 2012, I felt that amidst having a complete family, a good set of friends, a growing business and keeping myself busy with lots of activities that I enjoyed, something was missing. Then a friend invited me to join the 23rd Single Young Adult (SYA) Weekend and without hesitation I did, with high hopes that with some divine intervention, I will find the missing piece in my life that will make me happy. True enough, my weekend experience was a starting point to becoming a better me and finding happiness. It strengthened my relationship with God, making each day thereafter a happier day to live. Now, no problem will pull me down, without being able to rise again and seeing the brighter side of things. So many things can go wrong, but with a strengthened faith, I believe that God will not give me anything that I can’t handle.

It all started with one weekend, but the impact of the experience is forever. What was it during the weekend that made me change my perspective of life and continue to serve God through this community? The talks were simple but very relevant and real. It made me reflect on who I am, my relationships with the people around me, what I have been searching for, and the things that are keeping me from growing, among others. The people I met in this community have become my new friends. SYA has become my extended family, my second home. This community has taught me what happiness is all about and what it is to be in the midst of people who share the same happiness. It has made me see things in a different light, allowing myself to live life with more enthusiasm and share the same zest for life with others.

I would then like to invite all those who are single, 21-39 years old to join us for the 27th SYA WEEKEND on March 21 to 23 (Friday evening to Sunday) at the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Center. Sign-up forms and informational brochures are available at the Parish Office. For more details you may also visit the parish website at https://ssaparish.wordpress.com/parish-mininstries/youth-of-san-antonio/sya/.

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MarieMarie has been a member of the Single Young Adults since 2012. She enjoys traveling, trying out new restaurants, and playing sports like badminton and boxing.

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“SYA Weekend-First Step to a Wonderful Journey” by Alexandra Li

SYA WeekendWhen I was asked to join a Single Young Adults (SYA) weekend in 2008, I didn’t know what to expect. All the while, I thought I wouldn’t get a lot out of the weekend since I had lived a healthy and balanced lifestyle. I had firm goals in life and was on track to achieving them. I was spending just the right amount of time for God, family, work and leisure. Mondays to Fridays are mostly spent working. Occasionally, I would hang out with friends after work. Saturdays are mostly spent playing sports or going on short trips out of town. Sundays are definitely reserved for church and family.

However, a few weeks before the weekend, the life that I once knew fell into pieces. Work became too busy which made meeting with friends more difficult. Friends turned against each other. My relationship with my mom was getting shaky.

As the weekend approached, questions about life started to pile. Questions like—“Do I bother myself with these problems or do I turn my back on them?”, “How do I piece myself and my relationships back together?”, and “Where is God amidst all the chaos”?

Finally, the weekend came. I was surprised how 3 days can put things in perspective. It was a great way to reflect on all aspects of life. The weekend facilitated self-rediscovery, finding our identity—which is mostly drowned or taken over by what we do versus who we really are,our relationship with our family and friendsand how we—as Catholics—fit into the big picture. Unknowingly, it was what I needed and more. I was in the company of people going through the same uncertainties in life. I was not alone. All participants were moved by the talks and sharings, and as time went by, we have all grown closer to one another and had been each other’s confidants.

After the weekend, SYA had continually inspired me to see God in everything I do. The community is a place I know can always fall back on with no judgments and no hesitations. As I had been a prodigal son who had left and returned, SYA had always been the family who was glad to see me back.

Joining SYA had been one of the best decisions in my life. I thank God everyday for allowing me to take my journey together with a loving community. It is a group that always provides me opportunities to keep my faith strong—through various church activities like prayer meetings, birthday masses, and service at Makati City Jail and Philippine General Hospital. It is a group that continues to help me find God in the center of all things. I have never felt more purpose in life than when I found God in my center.

The 28th Single Young Adults weekend will be from September 12 – 14, 2014 (Friday evening to Sunday) at the 2nd floor of the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Center. Registration Fee is P1,000. Informational brochures are available at the Parish Office. You may also contact Jonathanat 09178367374 or jona.dcruz@gmail.com for more information.

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