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Parents as Pilots by Norman Camungol

I’ve never been more aware as I am now of the whereabouts of my four children. You know what “omnipresence” is? That word describes my children, always present. We are all confined to our home as most of you are. We are all going crazy.

I’m healthy. We’re safe. Gratitude and perspective have never been more important than right now — as reading depressing news and seeing pictures of overwhelmed hospitals — reminds me of how much I must be grateful for.

My job keeps me busy. Cassie, my fifteen-year-old, is incoming 9th grade and my youngest, fourteen-year-old Kimberly, is incoming 8th grade. My twenty-year-old Kirsten is in her final semester of university. Twenty-two-year-old Caitlin (fortunately) lives in a condo and works. I realized early on that they needed help with their studies. Parenting is already difficult as a solo parent. I also realized I’m not that much help. I have issues of my own.

It was a blessing for us that our Parish’s Family and Life Ministry held an Online Workshop last July 17 called “Parents as Pilots: Supporting Your Children in Online Learning” Our facilitators were seasoned educators: Mary Ann Tantoco Eala, Rina Ledesma Villalon, and Michelle Villafania Santos. Parents, including grandparents, of every stripe and sort attended; and we all had a great time.

In the cockpit
The workshop touched on 3 key milestones: the VUCA world, our children, and ourselves. VUCA stands for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity, certainly true to describe our world today. Mary Ann compared our roles as parents to flight crews in airliners. In the same way passengers rely on the aircrew, children look to those responsible for them for guidance in a VUCA world. She explained how important it is for us to understand the environment our children live in and what the expectations are from parents nowadays. In other words, parents are now the unique reference points during quarantine — particularly for young children who depend on their parents — at this stage in their lives.

Frank discussions and success stories on how we act and react to our children’s online learning needs were shared in the Zoom breakout sessions between topics. Issues discussed ranged from coping with video screen fatigue to depression. Interactions and personal stories from fellow parents on their lives during quarantine were not only enlightening but also comforting and reassuring. One great thing about all these is that the facilitators are mothers themselves. They often related their own struggles with the quarantined life and how they apply the topics discussed into their daily routine.

Valuable tools
The workshop expounded on the processes of P.A.V.E.R., which is Positivity, Accountability, Value Mistakes, Empathy, and Recovery Time. PAVER helps children become resilient and better able to cope with unforeseen events.

Lastly, the workshop delved into the mental health and wellbeing of the parents themselves. Indeed, a failure on the parents’ part has repercussions on how children will behave. Our young children emulate us. Our older children still set us up as examples for guidance. It’s also important for parents to have their “alone” times. At least, that’s what jumped out at me.

The world turns, albeit slowly; and the events of today affect us in unimaginable ways. And yet, we have our havens. This workshop was truly a haven for “crazy” parents like me. At the very least, it is comforting to have recourse to sharing our thoughts, experiences, challenges, and successes with other parents as we did during the online event. The seminar was, indeed, only the beginning of this ongoing opportunity for communion with other people with these shared concerns. Any parents or would-be parents who wish to take part in further activities such as this can contact our Parish’s Family And Life Ministry at info@ssapfamlife.com.

Video recordings of the workshop can be viewed online at the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Facebook and YouTube sites.

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The Seventh Commandment: “Thou Shall Not Steal” by Fr. Robert Manansala, OFM

The 7th Commandment of the Decalogue — found in Exodus 20:15 and Deuteronomy 5:19 —  is formulated in the negative form as “Thou shall not steal.”  “Respect the goods of others” can be one of its positive formulations.

Some Biblical scholars say that because of the peculiar grammatical construction in Hebrew, this Commandment “does not refer so much to stealing property as it does to kidnapping people.”  According to Ian Knox, “the question of property is more clearly dealt with the tenth commandment” (“Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s goods”).

In early Biblical times, kidnapping was a crime as real as it is today.  Joseph, for example, was kidnapped and sold to traders by his own brothers (cf. Gen 37). To kidnap someone was to steal the freedom and liberty of the person and his presence from those who loved the person.

In the light of an expanded understanding of the Seventh Commandment as not limited to physical goods, the said Commandment can be considered as encompassing all the other Commandments. “To use the name of God in vain” is to steal the reverence that rightly belongs to God.  “To commit an adultery” is to steal the wife or husband of another.  “Killing another person” is to steal the sacred life of the person concerned.

An expanded understanding of the 7th Commandment covers not only the other Commandments clearly stipulated in the Decalogue but also the other implications, coverages and consequences of all the Commandments.  To spread fake news is to deprive others of the truths and to steal the same from them. We may not kill another person literally, but we can be “killing” the same with our judgmental and condemning thoughts. This is still stealing the fundamental goodness present in every person.  This even becomes worse when we spread gossips and calumnies about the person and, consequently, steal his or her good image or reputation.

We also need to reflect on the Seventh Commandment in the light of the so-called sins of commission and omission.  We do not only outrightly steal the goods of others, be they physical, psychological, intellectual and spiritual and other classifications of goods.  To deprive someone of what rightly belongs to him or to her is to steal from the person.  Every person deserves respect even if we have to disagree with him or with her.  To not give due respect is to steal that which the person deserves as a child of God made in God’s image. To abuse Mother Earth is to steal from God, the rightful owner of the cosmic world, and others with whom we share our common home.   

From the Franciscan spiritual point of view, everything belongs to God.  Everything comes from God’s goodness and love.  To appropriate anything for oneself that ultimately belongs to God is to steal from God.   

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A Letter from the Editor

Gifted to Give: Talent

Mid June at 9:20 p.m., after waking up from a nap which is rare — I do not take naps and surely not before turning down for the night — I checked on my e-mails and saw the interaction between our Photo Editor Jojo and our Assistant Editor Mara regarding the resolution of a photo which had been approved by Jojo after another effort of Mara’s by sending via “telegram.”


It put a smile to my face how blessed I was to be part of this wonderful, wonderful group of people, our little PB family, where every single person is hardworking and every single person has no ulterior motive but to serve, to glorify God, to lead souls closer to Him and yes, use the Gifts the Master has given. And what a treasure trove of Gifts we have here!

It makes me smile also that amidst the varying differences in age, we all respect each other’s work and what each one brings to the table. If you think the PB is enjoyable and has a positive effect on you, it is but a reflection of the love and camaraderie we share here.


But alas, a group of talented people will always have movement — and as happy as we are working together, and as selfish as we would want everyone to just stay together — we must let go when one needs to journey towards a new endeavor.


Our Assistant Editor Mara Eala, who’s like a younger sister to me (not daughter but could be, haha) is moving to the States to pursue her dreams and further studies in Harvard. When she first told me about it back in April, my first thought was how proud and happy I was for her and though bittersweet to lose such a talented member of the PB team, I know she will always belong to us.


Cesar Inducil, our ex-seminarian, ex-Assistant Editor who also left start of the year is still part of our team as a Contributing Writer. I am so proud that he has found a job in Canada as a member of the Netflix series, “Lost Ollie,” based on the children’s book “Ollie’s Odyssey” — how cool is that?


Our youngest, just-turned-18 Illustrator Hannah Fernandez also graduated from high school plus just celebrated her birthday a few months ago — which just made us an all-adult team now! Her zest and professionalism at such a young age makes me think that youth is not wasted on the young.


Our loyal and adept Assistant Editors Clar Gomez, Mica Madrigal and Ninee Pascual are all busy with their own outside work and businesses but still take time to continue
serving the Parish joyfully through the PB, giving us wonderful contributions and contributors week after week.


Alex Arcenas our Eco Tips Illustrator, whom I’ve never met in person, I have to thank, for her cool illustrations which she submits week after week.


And of course our esteemed Photo Editor Jojo Guingona, who is such an integral part of the team, always makes sure we bring to you meticulously edited photos, so please give us good ones, and hi-res, please!


Our “Tito” Monet, the Lead Assistant Editor who is my sounding board and who edits my edits but at 80 years old and a retired Army general and with so many honors
under his belt, never argues with me if I do not want to take his advice (I normally do). This ex-Special Forces paratrooper always tells me, “You are the Boss.” He’s been not only a father figure but also a best friend with whom I chat for hours when the going gets tough or I just need a wise human to talk to with a wicked sense of humor.

And last but not least, PB’s Art Director Caren Tordesillas who is really like a younger sister to me and who is one of the people I talk to almost everyday, change that, we message every day. Whether it’s PB business, her home bakery business, or just the business called life. Always kind, present and always in good spirits, we are each
other’s sounding board. And how amazing was the recently concluded Fiesta, wherein she played a huge part?

Of course, our ever reliable Contributors – Tita Peachy Maramba, Lianne Tiu, Fr. Robert Manansala and Tita Conchitina, they’re our extended family.


What would PB be without this group of brilliant, amazing people?


When I was asked to lead the Parish Bulletin at the start of last year, just a week before the pandemic, I did not know what to expect, I usually try not to. But I already knew I would change the look of the PB and its direction without an inkling how it would be — working with this group of people. I remember I immediately invited them to my house and the rest they say is history; we have not only formed a bond with a similar cause but we have also formed a real family in PB, being each other’s cheerleaders and supporters. When I thought I would change the Parish Bulletin, it actually changed my life!


This Editorial letter was not part of the original plan for this issue but a prompting made me just continue typing the emotions brewing out of sheer joy to be part of this magnificent group. We just had a meeting last night and PB meetings are run so efficiently, we are done with the brainstorming of the monthly issue in less than an hour but after business, we stayed on, just chatting, laughing and telling each other’s life stories.


Because of the team’s efficiency, we can always mix business with pleasure!
May the Holy Spirit, Who is our Guide and Light, continue to direct and inspire us.
To my team, you guys are truly the best! May we continue to bring the best in each of us as we glorify God so we can lead His children even closer to Him.


Enjoy the issue!

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Finding Joy in Celebrating Christmas with my Parish Community by Johan Ferrer


I always look forward to our Parish events, such as the Buling-Buling, Easter and the Parish Fiesta, and most especially the Christmas Activities. Aside from the Misa de Gallo and the parties, there are also recollections, outreach programs, and the many ways of giving by the different ministries.

I attended the PGH Ministry’s gift-giving on November 25 with members of SYA, Luke 18, and some Volunteers. I felt sad for the young patients and their families there at the ward, but I believe that the prayers for them, the games played by them, the giveaways, and the performances made them look past their problems even for those few hours that we were there with them.

There was a young girl that I saw in an isolation room seated at the top of her bed, her mom close by watching over her, and this girl looked quite bothered. I then noticed that behind her, also sitting up, was a ‘Jollibee’ stuffed toy. I pointed to it and mouthed its name to her while smiling and waving. This made her wave back and smile.

I remembered that I was also performing a Corporal Work of Mercy, Visiting the Sick, and a Spiritual Work of Mercy, which is Comforting the Afflicted. Furthermore, I realized that the problems I delve on are nothing compared to those that these young patients and their families have; that I should live my life with more gratitude and giving. It also makes me appreciate more the tireless jobs of the doctors, nurses, and staff in PGH and similar instutions.

I find joy in celebrating Christmas with my faith family and our parish community, but I find the most joy in giving to those in need.

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Tidings of Joy: Christmas Party 2017 By Kristine Anne D.C. Balza, SSAP College Scholar


This year’s Christmas party was a blast! It started with a Holy Mass presided by Fr. Reu Galoy, OFM. Some current SSAP scholars joined their voices in singing for the Lord as the choir for the Mass. The Mass concluded with a message of joy. After that, the program proper started. Balloons accented with white, green and red were designed as little Santas while colorful paper flowers filled the background of the stage.

Fr. Reu led the opening prayer of the party, followed by the singing of our National Anthem led by Ivy Borja, an SSAP scholar. After the welcoming remarks of the Scholarship Committee and inspirational message of Fr. Reu, a special surprise for Mrs. Menchu Bautista took place. A touching message by Mrs. Jean Chavez and by Mrs. Margot was said in order to commemorate Mrs. Menchu’s 21 years of service. A gift of memories and touching messages were compiled in a handmade scrapbook and a big certificate was given to Mrs. Menchu. It was then followed by recognition of scholars who had won awards from their respective schools and those who had passed the Board Exams.

Traditionally, the whole program was filled with a hearty dinner, fun and games, raffles, lots of gifts and a special number performed by current SSAP scholars. The night wrapped up with smiles on each face and memories worth keeping. It was indeed a blessed night because it was not only about gifts but also about Christ who came to this world as a Child.

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From the Desk of the Parish Priest, Fr. Reu Jose C. Galoy, OFM

Fr. Reu Galoy
Dear Co-Pilgrims:

Peace and well-being!

The general theme of our Parish Bulletin (PB) for this month is COLLECTIVE LEADERSHIP. Our simple operational definition of leadership is: it’s a process by which an individual influences others in ways that help attain organizational goals. It involves the practice of decision-making, as well as communicating with, motivating, selecting and developing people. The word “collective” indicates cooperation, collaboration, inclusion, partnership, and participation. This understanding of leadership therefore promotes teamwork through active listening and “participatory” process. Another way to put it – this model of leadership illustrates that the process is as important as the product.

In the theological and pastoral point of view, collective leadership is essentially drawn from our identity as baptized members of our Catholic Christian community, endowed with the gifts of the Holy Spirit in order to cooperate and participate in God’s mission through humble and joyful service to people. Personal agenda and interest are contrary to the spirit of service and ministry to say the least. Authentic service frees one from seeking recognition or desiring any position – obedience to God’s will is always a process of kenosis (self-emptying or denying oneself). In the words of St. John the Baptist, “He must increase; I must decrease” (Jn. 3:30).

Taking the points mentioned above, our parish ministerial-stewardship structure attempts to bring these principles into our leadership practices as entrusted to collaborate in the pastoral care of the Church whose function is that of healing, guiding, sustaining and reconciling. We therefore have another way of understanding structure – that while it shows us the position of authority, areas of coordination and concerns, we take structure in this context to mean PRIORITY (focus), which is our LIFE-in-MINISTRY. Thus, every single entity in the Parish finds its reason of existence in service of the “other” and on behalf of the Church.

That being said, we promote the spirituality of stewardship in our leadership functions to indicate that we abide by the principles of non-ownership, servanthood, gratitude, trust and love. Our ministerial services in the Parish are both an oasis and locus for our ongoing conversion to become a better person and credible witness of the Gospel. Ministry is an opportunity to be of service, rather than a privilege to holding position. It is God Who qualifies us, than us having the qualifications. It is a gift by God to us individually, yet affirmed collectively through the community of the faithful.

The quality of our relationship as ministers and stewards is the best way to share the joy of the Gospel and gift to our own faith-community as well.

Fraternally,
Fr. Reu Jose C. Galoy, OFM

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Beyond Mere Funding by Mert Loinaz & Millette Ocampo

Since its inception in 1996, the SSAP Scholarship Program has graduated 986 scholars, the primary funding source being proceeds from the annual Francisfest concert. With the objective of helping indigent students learn skills that will help them obtain employment as quickly as possible, primary target beneficiaries are those who want to enrol in two-year vocational or technical course. In addition to tuition fees, scholars are provided with transportation and food allowances and upon graduation, assistance in job placements. In recent years, with the help of generous parishioners, the program has been able to accept applicants who are in the last two years of their college courses.

But, the SSAP Scholarship Program does not stop at merely providing financial assistance. A distinctive characteristic of the program is that it aims to build a Christian community composed of scholars, members of the scholarship committee, SSAP social worker, the Parish priest, various other volunteers PLUS all past graduates of the program.

A condition for acceptance into the program is that the scholar must agree to come to the Parish on two Saturdays of each month during the school year.

Thus, on two Saturdays of each month, the parish life is animated by the presence of around 50 students who benefit from enrichment programs, which include tutoring in English, sessions on how to prepare for job interviews, tips on good grooming, values formation workshops, small-group consultations with individual Committee members, and recollections. In the afternoons, the scholars render some kind of service to the parish, thereby getting to know the parish staff.

It’s not all serious business, however. Fellowships are formed among students, with committee members and with the social workers. This bonding takes place at the annual picnic, during rehearsals for the yearly Buling-Buling show, singing at special Masses, and during preparations for the big annual Christmas party to which all past graduates are invited.

Thus, even after they graduate, scholars know that in Santuario de San Antonio Parish they have a community to which they can always return in order to experience God’s victorious love.

SSAP Scho. Prog. Comm. / Mert Loinaz & Millette Ocampo

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YSA BALL 2016: THROWBACK TO DECADES PAST by Reg Galvez

Last April 30 from 6PM-12MN, the Santuario de San Antonio Social Halls were lit as we had the annual YSA Ball 2016 with the theme, “Throwback to Decades Past.” This was a charity event for the benefit of the Philippine General Hospital (PGH) and it also served as a community bonding effort for all the 3 youth communities of the Santuario de San Antonio Parish. The event was organized by myself, Reg Galvez, and my fellow Antiocher, Enzo Agcaoili. However, the planning for the event itself was a concerted effort done by representatives from the Antioch, Luke, and SYA communities.

Stepping into the venue immediately brought you back to your own childhood as guests were greeted by flashes of light coming from CD curtains hanging all around the room. Table centerpieces made from tapes and CD cases and the overall feel of the whole venue just further reiterated the throwback vibe. All these decors were done by hand and was led by our decors head, Clara Pettersen. Even before the start of the event, music from the early 2000s to decades before that blasted through the speakers giving attendees an instant nostalgic feeling that even more so set the tone for what was to come.

The night started off with opening remarks from our hosts, Kevin Kramer and Iya Aguilar and with an opening prayer. This was then followed by dinner prepared by our caterer, Alessandra Trias. For dinner music and entertainment, we had an open mic set and bands. Performers from Antioch and Luke rushed onstage to amaze us with their on the spot musical renditions. Finally after everyone had their fill of the delicious food, we started our main program with performances by different representatives from all 3 youth communities that were handpicked to wow the crowd with their talent . These performers serenaded us and allowed us to travel back in time as they played songs from decades past. The diversity of the performers allowed the crowd to slow dance, and just jump and sway to the music as fast and upbeat songs started to fill every corner of the social hall.

To stick closer to the “ball theme” we also had an awarding ceremony wherein gift certificates from JJ Yulo and Tamarind (courtesy of Ramon Blanco) were given to the Ball King and Queen (Antioch) and Ball Prince and Princess (Luke). Awards were also given to the Stag of the Night, Best Dressed, and Life of the Party. This was also the part of the night wherein we thanked our sponsors from SYA and the PPC (Parish Pastoral Council) for their generous contributions. Our sponsors were as follows: Edmund Lim, Suzette Gatmaitan, Tina Teehankee, and Jaime and Karen Blanco who gave us monetary support that allowed us to raise more funds for PGH.

Finally, after the awarding, we had a short slow dance set for the ball winners and other ball attendees. Then we proceeded with our upbeat song set that had everyone heading out onto the dance floor. Before we knew it, we had already exhausted our number of performers but people still wanted to dance. To remedy this, we opened another open mic set and also started to blast songs from the speakers that had people dancing to the tunes of Backstreet Boys and other known bands and performers from decades past. With each new song, more people would flock to the dance floor until it was filled with bodies just moving and jumping up and down to the rhythm of the beat. It was truly a sight to see to watch people from all youth communities just dancing together and having the time of their lives.

Soon, the night was coming to an end. We topped off the event with our last song, “Closing Time” then ended with a prayer circle to thank God for this night’s success. We then cheered the respective cheers from the Luke and Antioch communities and with that, ball was over.

YSA Ball 2016 sold over a 100 tickets and was able to raise around P35,000 for PGH. This was a milestone effort that really filled our hearts with joy because of the overflowing support that we got from each youth community. Thank you to all who went and to all who helped us make this night one for the books! It was truly a night to remember!

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THE JOY OF CHURCH USHERING By Nena Veloso-Mewshew

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In 2012, I was representing the CWL SSAP Chapter when Fr. Joel Sulse, OFM, the incumbent parish priest appointed me to chair the Hospitality Ministry, which was never occupied before. I learned that ushering our parishioners in Church is a calling of the Lord. Since then, I spent 8 hrs. in Church every Sunday to perform my duty as greeter and collector during the Holy Masses. As ushers, we see to it that PWDs and seniors are properly seated. We assist during communion. We enforce proper dress code. We welcome new families into the parish, congratulate newly baptized babies and newly married couples and send condolences to the passing of parishioners.

As chair of the Hospitality Ministry for four years now, I am still waiting for someone who can take my place. In the meantime, I would like to share with you the joy of serving in our parish. I would like to repeat the saying: “There is no accident with the Lord.” I was born in Tuburan, Cebu, where our patron saint is also San Antonio. My mother’s name is Antonia. I got married to a guy named Antonio. My daughter is named Antoinette and my other niece is Dr. Antoinette Cabahug. My parents were also devoted to San Antonio.

I have been a parishioner of San Antonio for more than half of my life and I intend to serve the Parish until the Lord calls me and says: “You have done your humble job serving me, it is time for you to rest and share your joy and happiness to others.” I thank and praise you Lord through San Antonio for giving me the great opportunity to serve this Parish with the guidance of the Holy Spirit and of Jesus Christ, my Savior.

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NOTHING OF MY OWN By: Marie Tycangco

A Eucharistic Community of Families Guided by the Virtues of St. Anthony

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“By myself I can do nothing; I judge only as I hear, and my judgment is just, for I seek not to please myself but Him who sent me.” – John 5:30

St. Anthony lived a life of absolute poverty, adhering to it with all his heart. He lived the life of the poor by renouncing all worldly goods. He left his prominent family to preach to the poor. In poverty, he traveled tirelessly to spread God’s word, as he intended to literally walk in the footprints of Christ. He lived a truly Christian life “with feet solidly on the ground of total trusting love and dependence on God.” He believed that “Poverty is the true wealth; it keeps and generates humility; it is the source of spiritual joy; poverty frees one from the desires that tie men to things.” and that “Poverty is the only path to Christ, a way of participating in his kingdom.”

One of the prominent pictures of St. Anthony shows him carrying the child Jesus, while giving bread to a poor man. This symbolizes his concern for the poor, as he feeds the hungry. The bread symbolizes the sustenance of life, as well as the spreading of the Word of God to the world.

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True poverty is recognizing that everything we have belongs to God and acknowledging that we are in desperate need of God’s grace to be able to fulfill our mission. It goes beyond material things, simplicity and humility. It is a total surrender of who we are what we have and all that we do.

Nothing belongs to us, our families, our talents, our ministries, our life. These were given to us for a reason, to serve a greater purpose, to bring out the goodness in each one, to be passed on from one generation to another to ensure continuity.