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Parents as Pilots by Norman Camungol

I’ve never been more aware as I am now of the whereabouts of my four children. You know what “omnipresence” is? That word describes my children, always present. We are all confined to our home as most of you are. We are all going crazy.

I’m healthy. We’re safe. Gratitude and perspective have never been more important than right now — as reading depressing news and seeing pictures of overwhelmed hospitals — reminds me of how much I must be grateful for.

My job keeps me busy. Cassie, my fifteen-year-old, is incoming 9th grade and my youngest, fourteen-year-old Kimberly, is incoming 8th grade. My twenty-year-old Kirsten is in her final semester of university. Twenty-two-year-old Caitlin (fortunately) lives in a condo and works. I realized early on that they needed help with their studies. Parenting is already difficult as a solo parent. I also realized I’m not that much help. I have issues of my own.

It was a blessing for us that our Parish’s Family and Life Ministry held an Online Workshop last July 17 called “Parents as Pilots: Supporting Your Children in Online Learning” Our facilitators were seasoned educators: Mary Ann Tantoco Eala, Rina Ledesma Villalon, and Michelle Villafania Santos. Parents, including grandparents, of every stripe and sort attended; and we all had a great time.

In the cockpit
The workshop touched on 3 key milestones: the VUCA world, our children, and ourselves. VUCA stands for Volatility, Uncertainty, Complexity, and Ambiguity, certainly true to describe our world today. Mary Ann compared our roles as parents to flight crews in airliners. In the same way passengers rely on the aircrew, children look to those responsible for them for guidance in a VUCA world. She explained how important it is for us to understand the environment our children live in and what the expectations are from parents nowadays. In other words, parents are now the unique reference points during quarantine — particularly for young children who depend on their parents — at this stage in their lives.

Frank discussions and success stories on how we act and react to our children’s online learning needs were shared in the Zoom breakout sessions between topics. Issues discussed ranged from coping with video screen fatigue to depression. Interactions and personal stories from fellow parents on their lives during quarantine were not only enlightening but also comforting and reassuring. One great thing about all these is that the facilitators are mothers themselves. They often related their own struggles with the quarantined life and how they apply the topics discussed into their daily routine.

Valuable tools
The workshop expounded on the processes of P.A.V.E.R., which is Positivity, Accountability, Value Mistakes, Empathy, and Recovery Time. PAVER helps children become resilient and better able to cope with unforeseen events.

Lastly, the workshop delved into the mental health and wellbeing of the parents themselves. Indeed, a failure on the parents’ part has repercussions on how children will behave. Our young children emulate us. Our older children still set us up as examples for guidance. It’s also important for parents to have their “alone” times. At least, that’s what jumped out at me.

The world turns, albeit slowly; and the events of today affect us in unimaginable ways. And yet, we have our havens. This workshop was truly a haven for “crazy” parents like me. At the very least, it is comforting to have recourse to sharing our thoughts, experiences, challenges, and successes with other parents as we did during the online event. The seminar was, indeed, only the beginning of this ongoing opportunity for communion with other people with these shared concerns. Any parents or would-be parents who wish to take part in further activities such as this can contact our Parish’s Family And Life Ministry at info@ssapfamlife.com.

Video recordings of the workshop can be viewed online at the Santuario de San Antonio Parish Facebook and YouTube sites.

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The Seventh Commandment: “Thou Shall Not Steal” by Fr. Robert Manansala, OFM

The 7th Commandment of the Decalogue — found in Exodus 20:15 and Deuteronomy 5:19 —  is formulated in the negative form as “Thou shall not steal.”  “Respect the goods of others” can be one of its positive formulations.

Some Biblical scholars say that because of the peculiar grammatical construction in Hebrew, this Commandment “does not refer so much to stealing property as it does to kidnapping people.”  According to Ian Knox, “the question of property is more clearly dealt with the tenth commandment” (“Thou shall not covet thy neighbor’s goods”).

In early Biblical times, kidnapping was a crime as real as it is today.  Joseph, for example, was kidnapped and sold to traders by his own brothers (cf. Gen 37). To kidnap someone was to steal the freedom and liberty of the person and his presence from those who loved the person.

In the light of an expanded understanding of the Seventh Commandment as not limited to physical goods, the said Commandment can be considered as encompassing all the other Commandments. “To use the name of God in vain” is to steal the reverence that rightly belongs to God.  “To commit an adultery” is to steal the wife or husband of another.  “Killing another person” is to steal the sacred life of the person concerned.

An expanded understanding of the 7th Commandment covers not only the other Commandments clearly stipulated in the Decalogue but also the other implications, coverages and consequences of all the Commandments.  To spread fake news is to deprive others of the truths and to steal the same from them. We may not kill another person literally, but we can be “killing” the same with our judgmental and condemning thoughts. This is still stealing the fundamental goodness present in every person.  This even becomes worse when we spread gossips and calumnies about the person and, consequently, steal his or her good image or reputation.

We also need to reflect on the Seventh Commandment in the light of the so-called sins of commission and omission.  We do not only outrightly steal the goods of others, be they physical, psychological, intellectual and spiritual and other classifications of goods.  To deprive someone of what rightly belongs to him or to her is to steal from the person.  Every person deserves respect even if we have to disagree with him or with her.  To not give due respect is to steal that which the person deserves as a child of God made in God’s image. To abuse Mother Earth is to steal from God, the rightful owner of the cosmic world, and others with whom we share our common home.   

From the Franciscan spiritual point of view, everything belongs to God.  Everything comes from God’s goodness and love.  To appropriate anything for oneself that ultimately belongs to God is to steal from God.   

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A Letter from the Editor

Gifted to Give: Talent

Mid June at 9:20 p.m., after waking up from a nap which is rare — I do not take naps and surely not before turning down for the night — I checked on my e-mails and saw the interaction between our Photo Editor Jojo and our Assistant Editor Mara regarding the resolution of a photo which had been approved by Jojo after another effort of Mara’s by sending via “telegram.”


It put a smile to my face how blessed I was to be part of this wonderful, wonderful group of people, our little PB family, where every single person is hardworking and every single person has no ulterior motive but to serve, to glorify God, to lead souls closer to Him and yes, use the Gifts the Master has given. And what a treasure trove of Gifts we have here!

It makes me smile also that amidst the varying differences in age, we all respect each other’s work and what each one brings to the table. If you think the PB is enjoyable and has a positive effect on you, it is but a reflection of the love and camaraderie we share here.


But alas, a group of talented people will always have movement — and as happy as we are working together, and as selfish as we would want everyone to just stay together — we must let go when one needs to journey towards a new endeavor.


Our Assistant Editor Mara Eala, who’s like a younger sister to me (not daughter but could be, haha) is moving to the States to pursue her dreams and further studies in Harvard. When she first told me about it back in April, my first thought was how proud and happy I was for her and though bittersweet to lose such a talented member of the PB team, I know she will always belong to us.


Cesar Inducil, our ex-seminarian, ex-Assistant Editor who also left start of the year is still part of our team as a Contributing Writer. I am so proud that he has found a job in Canada as a member of the Netflix series, “Lost Ollie,” based on the children’s book “Ollie’s Odyssey” — how cool is that?


Our youngest, just-turned-18 Illustrator Hannah Fernandez also graduated from high school plus just celebrated her birthday a few months ago — which just made us an all-adult team now! Her zest and professionalism at such a young age makes me think that youth is not wasted on the young.


Our loyal and adept Assistant Editors Clar Gomez, Mica Madrigal and Ninee Pascual are all busy with their own outside work and businesses but still take time to continue
serving the Parish joyfully through the PB, giving us wonderful contributions and contributors week after week.


Alex Arcenas our Eco Tips Illustrator, whom I’ve never met in person, I have to thank, for her cool illustrations which she submits week after week.


And of course our esteemed Photo Editor Jojo Guingona, who is such an integral part of the team, always makes sure we bring to you meticulously edited photos, so please give us good ones, and hi-res, please!


Our “Tito” Monet, the Lead Assistant Editor who is my sounding board and who edits my edits but at 80 years old and a retired Army general and with so many honors
under his belt, never argues with me if I do not want to take his advice (I normally do). This ex-Special Forces paratrooper always tells me, “You are the Boss.” He’s been not only a father figure but also a best friend with whom I chat for hours when the going gets tough or I just need a wise human to talk to with a wicked sense of humor.

And last but not least, PB’s Art Director Caren Tordesillas who is really like a younger sister to me and who is one of the people I talk to almost everyday, change that, we message every day. Whether it’s PB business, her home bakery business, or just the business called life. Always kind, present and always in good spirits, we are each
other’s sounding board. And how amazing was the recently concluded Fiesta, wherein she played a huge part?

Of course, our ever reliable Contributors – Tita Peachy Maramba, Lianne Tiu, Fr. Robert Manansala and Tita Conchitina, they’re our extended family.


What would PB be without this group of brilliant, amazing people?


When I was asked to lead the Parish Bulletin at the start of last year, just a week before the pandemic, I did not know what to expect, I usually try not to. But I already knew I would change the look of the PB and its direction without an inkling how it would be — working with this group of people. I remember I immediately invited them to my house and the rest they say is history; we have not only formed a bond with a similar cause but we have also formed a real family in PB, being each other’s cheerleaders and supporters. When I thought I would change the Parish Bulletin, it actually changed my life!


This Editorial letter was not part of the original plan for this issue but a prompting made me just continue typing the emotions brewing out of sheer joy to be part of this magnificent group. We just had a meeting last night and PB meetings are run so efficiently, we are done with the brainstorming of the monthly issue in less than an hour but after business, we stayed on, just chatting, laughing and telling each other’s life stories.


Because of the team’s efficiency, we can always mix business with pleasure!
May the Holy Spirit, Who is our Guide and Light, continue to direct and inspire us.
To my team, you guys are truly the best! May we continue to bring the best in each of us as we glorify God so we can lead His children even closer to Him.


Enjoy the issue!

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Finding Joy in Celebrating Christmas with my Parish Community by Johan Ferrer


I always look forward to our Parish events, such as the Buling-Buling, Easter and the Parish Fiesta, and most especially the Christmas Activities. Aside from the Misa de Gallo and the parties, there are also recollections, outreach programs, and the many ways of giving by the different ministries.

I attended the PGH Ministry’s gift-giving on November 25 with members of SYA, Luke 18, and some Volunteers. I felt sad for the young patients and their families there at the ward, but I believe that the prayers for them, the games played by them, the giveaways, and the performances made them look past their problems even for those few hours that we were there with them.

There was a young girl that I saw in an isolation room seated at the top of her bed, her mom close by watching over her, and this girl looked quite bothered. I then noticed that behind her, also sitting up, was a ‘Jollibee’ stuffed toy. I pointed to it and mouthed its name to her while smiling and waving. This made her wave back and smile.

I remembered that I was also performing a Corporal Work of Mercy, Visiting the Sick, and a Spiritual Work of Mercy, which is Comforting the Afflicted. Furthermore, I realized that the problems I delve on are nothing compared to those that these young patients and their families have; that I should live my life with more gratitude and giving. It also makes me appreciate more the tireless jobs of the doctors, nurses, and staff in PGH and similar instutions.

I find joy in celebrating Christmas with my faith family and our parish community, but I find the most joy in giving to those in need.

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From the Desk of the Parish Priest, Fr. Reu Jose C. Galoy, OFM

Fr. Reu Galoy
Dear Co-Pilgrims:

Peace and well-being!

The general theme of our Parish Bulletin (PB) for this month is COLLECTIVE LEADERSHIP. Our simple operational definition of leadership is: it’s a process by which an individual influences others in ways that help attain organizational goals. It involves the practice of decision-making, as well as communicating with, motivating, selecting and developing people. The word “collective” indicates cooperation, collaboration, inclusion, partnership, and participation. This understanding of leadership therefore promotes teamwork through active listening and “participatory” process. Another way to put it – this model of leadership illustrates that the process is as important as the product.

In the theological and pastoral point of view, collective leadership is essentially drawn from our identity as baptized members of our Catholic Christian community, endowed with the gifts of the Holy Spirit in order to cooperate and participate in God’s mission through humble and joyful service to people. Personal agenda and interest are contrary to the spirit of service and ministry to say the least. Authentic service frees one from seeking recognition or desiring any position – obedience to God’s will is always a process of kenosis (self-emptying or denying oneself). In the words of St. John the Baptist, “He must increase; I must decrease” (Jn. 3:30).

Taking the points mentioned above, our parish ministerial-stewardship structure attempts to bring these principles into our leadership practices as entrusted to collaborate in the pastoral care of the Church whose function is that of healing, guiding, sustaining and reconciling. We therefore have another way of understanding structure – that while it shows us the position of authority, areas of coordination and concerns, we take structure in this context to mean PRIORITY (focus), which is our LIFE-in-MINISTRY. Thus, every single entity in the Parish finds its reason of existence in service of the “other” and on behalf of the Church.

That being said, we promote the spirituality of stewardship in our leadership functions to indicate that we abide by the principles of non-ownership, servanthood, gratitude, trust and love. Our ministerial services in the Parish are both an oasis and locus for our ongoing conversion to become a better person and credible witness of the Gospel. Ministry is an opportunity to be of service, rather than a privilege to holding position. It is God Who qualifies us, than us having the qualifications. It is a gift by God to us individually, yet affirmed collectively through the community of the faithful.

The quality of our relationship as ministers and stewards is the best way to share the joy of the Gospel and gift to our own faith-community as well.

Fraternally,
Fr. Reu Jose C. Galoy, OFM

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Beyond Mere Funding by Mert Loinaz & Millette Ocampo

Since its inception in 1996, the SSAP Scholarship Program has graduated 986 scholars, the primary funding source being proceeds from the annual Francisfest concert. With the objective of helping indigent students learn skills that will help them obtain employment as quickly as possible, primary target beneficiaries are those who want to enrol in two-year vocational or technical course. In addition to tuition fees, scholars are provided with transportation and food allowances and upon graduation, assistance in job placements. In recent years, with the help of generous parishioners, the program has been able to accept applicants who are in the last two years of their college courses.

But, the SSAP Scholarship Program does not stop at merely providing financial assistance. A distinctive characteristic of the program is that it aims to build a Christian community composed of scholars, members of the scholarship committee, SSAP social worker, the Parish priest, various other volunteers PLUS all past graduates of the program.

A condition for acceptance into the program is that the scholar must agree to come to the Parish on two Saturdays of each month during the school year.

Thus, on two Saturdays of each month, the parish life is animated by the presence of around 50 students who benefit from enrichment programs, which include tutoring in English, sessions on how to prepare for job interviews, tips on good grooming, values formation workshops, small-group consultations with individual Committee members, and recollections. In the afternoons, the scholars render some kind of service to the parish, thereby getting to know the parish staff.

It’s not all serious business, however. Fellowships are formed among students, with committee members and with the social workers. This bonding takes place at the annual picnic, during rehearsals for the yearly Buling-Buling show, singing at special Masses, and during preparations for the big annual Christmas party to which all past graduates are invited.

Thus, even after they graduate, scholars know that in Santuario de San Antonio Parish they have a community to which they can always return in order to experience God’s victorious love.

SSAP Scho. Prog. Comm. / Mert Loinaz & Millette Ocampo

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St. Mark: Evangelist by Peachy Maramba

Much that is written about St. Mark, an early Jewish convert to Christianity in Jerusalem during the apostolic age, is based on tradition rather than actual history. His mother is said to be a certain Mary who was a wealthy and influential woman whose home in Jerusalem was a meeting place of sorts for the apostles (Acts 12:12,25. However, it is improbable that her house was the scene of the Last Supper as some writers suggest.

While Mark was not one of the 12 apostles of Christ, he was almost certainly among the 70 identified in the Book of Acts. One tradition holds that Mark is probably a cousin to Barnabas, who, together with St. Paul, took him as their assistant on their first missionary service to Cyprus. However, when they arrived at Perga in Pamphylia, for some reason Mark left them and returned to Jerusalem (Acts 13:13), causing evident displeasure to Paul. Thus, when Barnabas asked that Mark accompany them on a second missionary journey, Paul refused. This led to the break-up of Barnabas and Paul, so when Barnabas took Mark to his native land of Cyprus, Paul took Silas to Syria and Cilicia (Acts 15:38).

It is thought that somehow Mark later recovered his lost standing with Paul by the time that Paul was taken as prisoner in Rome the first time. He must have proven so trustful and helpful that Paul mentions him in his letters as one of his fellow workers (Philem 24) who was “very useful in serving me” (2 Tim: 4:11). Also, in Paul’s second Roman captivity just before he was martyred, Paul writes to Timothy enjoining him to “take Mark and bring him with you for he is profitable to me for the ministry.”

Mark was also associated with St. Peter, who affectionately called him “my son” (1 Peter 5:13). This close spiritual relationship between them led Papias, a second-century Christian writer and bishop of Hierapolis in Asia Minor, to suggest that Mark was indeed the author of the Gospel narrative thought to be the first, written at around the year 70 (although this proposition continues to be the subject of scholarly debate).

Mark’s Gospel, while ostensibly the Story of Jesus, is a handbookof discipleship that teaches us that to be a Christian is not merely saying that Jesus is Christ but is a matter of “patterning one’s own life on Jesus’ example of self- sacrificing love.” Whether or not it is the earliest, his gospel is the shortest and thought to be the simplest and clearest of the four Gospels, and may have been a model for Matthew and Luke.

Another ancient tradition says that, having finished writing his Gospel, Mark set sail for Alexandria in Egypt where he devoted himself to the work of teaching others “what he had learned from the apostles of Christ.” He lived in Alexandria for some time, eventually becoming its first bishop. He also set up the first Christian school there which became very famous. From the 4th century A.D. the Alexandrian see has been called cathedra Marci.

The Roman Martyrology tells us that: “Later . . . he was arrested for his faith, bound with cords and grievously tortured by being dragged over stones. Then while shut up in prison, he was comforted by the visit of an angel, and finally, after our Lord Himself had appeared to him, he was called to the heavenly kingdom in the eighth year of Nero.”

His body was supposedly brought to the city of Venice, Italy from Alexandria early in the ninth century. Whether this is true or not, St. Mark has been honored since time immemorial as Venice’s principal patron saint and his supposed relics are enshrined in the magnificent golden basilica of St. Mark’s Cathedral.

As published in the April 23 issue of the Parish Bulletin.

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Divine Mercy and the Blessed Virgin Mary by Clarisse Gomez

The greatest message of love in our modern age did not come from tales of world leaders or testimonies of famous men. Rather, it emerged from the spiritual life of a young Polish girl named Helena Kowalska. She came from a poor family, and although she felt called to the religious vocation, she couldn’t for lack of resources. One evening while enjoying herself at a dance, Jesus suddenly appeared before her, covered in wounds. He asked her, “How long shall I put up with you and how long will you keep putting me off?” Struck by this image, she immediately left the dance and went to a Church to pray. Shortly after this incident, she left for Warsaw and joined the Congregation of the Sisters of Our Lady of Mercy. From then on she was Sister Maria Faustina.

Even as she matured in faith as a religious sister, she remained ordinary in the eyes of others. However, when she was 26 years old, Jesus began to appear her to share His message of divine mercy. With the guidance of Fr. Sopoćko, her spiritual director, she started keeping a diary where she documented her visions. In these visions, Jesus asked that Faustina share the message of the Divine Mercy to the world, and that a special celebration be instituted by the Church.

For several decades, the message of the Divine Mercy existed in relative obscurity, and remained unrecognized by the Church until a young polish cardinal named Karol Wojtyla was elected pope and shared the Divine Mercy to the world. A central motif of Pope John Paul II’s papacy was God’s Mercy, and he preached that Mercy was the key to understanding the mysteries of God, of man, and all of creation.

Through the Divine Mercy, Jesus wants us to rediscover God’s great love for us. In this message, Jesus encourages us to trust in Him, and to share His mercy with other people. He says, “As often as you want to make me happy, speak to the world about my great and unfathomable mercy” (Diary 164). In response to His great love, He calls us to trust in him, to live and love without fear—that He may lead us to a complete peace.

“The graces of my mercy are drawn by means of one vessel only, and that is trust.” (Diary 1578)

Today we are surrounded by a culture of death, sin, and despair. Despite this, God calls us to trust in Him, and to return to the Father who forgives all sins, and who sets all things right. Furthermore, He demands of us acts of mercy, “which are to arise out of love for Me (Diary 742).” These may be exercised in three ways: by deed, by word, and by prayer. He asks us not to shrink from this; He calls us to not only rest in the consolation of this message, but to unleash the Divine Mercy upon the world.

“Tell aching mankind to snuggle close to My merciful heart, and I will fill it with peace. Tell [all people], my daughter, that I am Love and Mercy itself.” (Diary 1074)

As published in the April 23 issue of the Parish Bulletin.

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The Solemnity of the Divine Mercy by Dennis Montecillo

In this edition, we feature two timely articles featuring important events in the Catholic Church – the Feast of the Divine Mercy (April 23), and the Feast of St. Mark (April 25).

Clarisse Gomez does a wonderful job of providing us with a synopsis of the life of Sister Maria Faustina, and how Jesus appeared to her over a period of time to deliver the message of the Divine Mercy that resulted in St. Pope John Paul II declaring the second Sunday of Easter as Divine Mercy Sunday.

While I grew up Catholic (for the most part, dutifully attending Sunday mass at San Antonio), I didn’t take my faith seriously or read anything related to my faith until about 15 years ago. After a significant event that changed my life (a story for another day), I went on a reading rampage! One of the books that had a profound effect on me was Sister Faustina’s diary. As I recall, I was so taken by the book that I read it cover to cover in two sittings.

Peachy Maramba tells us about the life of St. Mark the Evangelist and his relationship with two giants of the Church, St. Peter and St. Paul. His clean, concise Gospel has been a favorite of Bible study groups for centuries.
It is perhaps uncoincidental that, in the period leading up to his feast day, the Coptic Orthodox Church that pays special veneration to St. Mark has been in the news. The tragic events on Palm Sunday drew attention once again to the part of the world wherein Christians continue to be persecuted.

It is not well known that there are some Coptic Christians who are in communion with the Catholic Church. These Christians follow the accepted Alexandrian rite in the Coptic language (derived from ancient Egyptian) in its liturgy.

As published in the April 23 issue of the Parish Bulletin.

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How First Holy Communion Will Change My Life by Emma Georgina C. Ramos

First Holy Communion will change my life because Jesus will travel into my body and he will guide me wherever I go. Since Jesus is now with me, I need to behave. I must follow The Ten Commandments and do lots of works of mercy!

As I receive Jesus’ body and blood, I will praise God and ask forgiveness for my sins. I know I should try to not sin because it’s like sticking a nail in Jesus’ hand when he was crucified. Jesus died for my sins and it was painful. When I look at the cross, I remember Jesus’ sacrifice. He died for us. I am sad because he died. But I am also happy because he freed us from sin.

When I take my First Holy Communion, I will be more aware of my actions. I will try my best to help my yayas, follow my parents, and play with my little brother whenever he asks me to. In school, I will try to solve fights that happen with my friends when we play games. I will help anyone who gets hurt.

I will do all these because these are the things that Jesus did when he was alive on earth and I want to follow his example. My sacrifice is small compared to Jesus’ sacrifice. But I think that as long as I do the right thing, Jesus will love what I am doing.

Jesus is our Savior and I am so happy to be receiving him during First Holy Communion!

As published in the April 16 issue of the Parish Bulletin.

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