Is it a lack of compassion to “deprive” people the “right” to divorce?, The ABC’s of Catholic Doctrine by Lianne Tiu

There is a move to legalize divorce in the Philippines. One of the arguments for divorce is the heartbreaking experience of domestic violence.

We sympathize with spouses who are trapped in these dehumanizing marriages. In fact, we must offer them much love and support. Their isolated cases, however, cannot be regarded as general situation to warrant a divorce law.

Compassion for these individuals cannot equal to the true compassion of supporting marriage itself. At its most basic level, marriage is a lifelong union between one man and one woman for the purpose of procreation and mutual support and love. To weaken the institution of marriage (by allowing divorce) for the sake of a few – even if this is for well-meaning intentions – is not compassionate.
It is important that marriage is for life. This is for the good of the two people involved, for the perpetuation of the family, and for the proper rearing of children. Pope Leo XIII wrote: “Truly, it is hardly possible to describe how great are the evils that flow from divorce.” An example is children of divorced parents experiencing deep and lasting emotional trauma.
To allow divorce for exceptional cases, Arch. Socrates Villegas questioned the degree of misery or difficulty on how it can be measured. Who can say which case is worthy of the “relief” of divorce or not? In the United States, most of the divorces do not happen because of spousal physical abuse or serious conflict, but they happen simply because spouses “grow apart.”

If aggrieved spouses and children are in need of help, there are juridical options to address their needs such as legal separation, annulment of voidable marriages, and provision in the law on anti-violence against women and children.
What about giving a second chance for happiness? The sad reality is that unhappy spouses who had divorced and remarried were no happier, on average, than unhappy spouses who stayed married. In fact, very often, their subsequent marriages did not succeed. In the United States, 2 of every 3 second marriages end in divorce, too.
Compassion compels us to protect our homes and families from all forces of destruction by saying “No to Divorce”!

(Reference: “What’s Wrong with Divorce Anyway?” by Alliance for the Family Foundation Philippines, Inc.; CBCP Position Against the Divorce Bill and Against the Decriminalization of Adultery and Concubinage by Archbishop Socrates Villegas {CBCP President} March 25, 2015; How Could Divorce Affect My Kids? By Amy Desai, J.D.; “Does Divorce Make People Happy? Findings from a Study of Unhappy Marriages”; “The Sacrament of Marriage”